“I feel so stressed out!” … Ever found yourself making this statement? Perhaps you’re feeling the pressure at work; maybe family dramas are getting to you; perhaps your relationships seem to be creating problems; or maybe it’s just the normal busyness and demands of life getting on top of you. Maybe it’s all of the above!
‘Stress’ is a generic term people use when they are feeling overwhelmed and unable to cope with the demands placed on them. With our busy lifestyles and the feeling of ‘never enough time’, stress seems to be a common complaint and something that most of us experience from time to time.
Not all stress is bad
We need some stress in order to motivate us and push ourselves to achieve at a higher level. However when the feeling of ‘stressed’ reaches a critical point we begin to feel overwhelmed. This critical point is different for each of us, and we need to be able to reduce that “stressed” feeling. Over time, if we continually allow ourselves to become “stressed”, it will have a serious effect on our physical and mental health.
Here are some tips to help you overcome that feeling of “stressed”:
1. Identify the things that are contributing to your stress. Be specific. Eg Work – is it a relationship issue/workload issue/time pressure/a specific incident …
2. Separate those things you can control and those things you can’t control. Often there are some things that are beyond our control, so it does not help when you’re trying to change what’s beyond your control. (Eg. Deadlines – if you can’t control it, let it go!)
3. Focus on the things you can control and that includes yourself – you have the ability to control yourself, and how you look at the situation, and respond to it. What other things do you have some control over? What else could you do?
4. And what things (even though you can’t change them) could you influence? How could you use your influence to make some changes that will reduce your stress?
Like all new habits, this will take practice before you’re able to use it quickly when you really need it. So start with practicing on a daily basis with situations that are not highly stressful. This will enable you to develop your “stress reduction” skills before you need them.
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